How The Church Screwed Up Sex

We owe folks an apology! Some of our society’s worst instincts around sexuality, draw from blueprints the church drew up — 1800 years ago. If we’re going to offer anything as our society is rethinking sexuality (and we have some good stuff to offer), we have to go back and figure out how we lost […]

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The Sexual Journey (the whole thing)

When we diminish how much of our humanity falls under the heading “making love,” without realizing we’re doing it, we cut out whole swaths of human experience. And… We suffer the loss of elders in our society. In this lesson, I’ll suggest the two are linked. Have a listen.

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Rethinking Sex: Let’s Start with a Story

After a long summer lesson that evoked more than a little emotion (read controversy), I’m ready for some smooth sailing. So of course, let’s talk about rethinking how church approaches sex ed. And in particular, let’s talk about how our community came to be fully inclusive of LGBT people. Sure, no emotion stirred up there, […]

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How To Change The World: Wrap-Up

The exercise we’re doing this morning is important enough to spend Sunday morning, breaking into circles, wrestling with the questions of pain and pressure here in Wake County. That’s how we’ll discern the work before us (along with other congregations in our city), to change our world. Have a listen to the quick wrap up. […]

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We Have Met The Enemy — And He Is Us

One of our brain’s evolved survival mechanisms is the proclivity to externalize our troubles and assign them to “the other.” It may have been a helpful survival strategy in hunter-gatherer bands thousands of years ago… But now? In a globalized society? Toxic!  Destructive! We have to do better. And as we see so often — […]

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We Can Do This Hard Thing

Triggering environments are not going away. Our world has gotten more connected. We can’t stay in our divided little groups, so we no longer have the luxury of living in homogeneous bubbles. It’s time to build our relational skills so we can participate in changing the world.

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It’s Not Your Fault . . . It’s Your Brain

Our brains evolved to keep us safe in hunter-gatherer bands on the Serengeti. Features of a brain designed for safety there, don’t necessarily work well for us here. Unconscious bias is one of those “safety” features. But the spiritual journey invites us to access a deeper part of ourselves, to broaden our perceptions beyond those […]

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Outlasting Outrage

Outrage will fuel change — but not for very long. If we want to change deeply rooted systems that cause harm, we must be the kind of people who can function in that demanding environment. Turns out, many generations of spiritual people before us, figured that out. Our ancient spiritual practices catalyze the kind of […]

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Service Work + System Work = Sea Change

If we follow Jesus, serving those hurt by oppressive systems is our work. But Jesus also taught us to change the systems that hurt people in the first place. If we want to change the world, the job before us is to rebalance our win-lose systems.

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